We are what we attract.

Posted: December 7, 2010 in PEACE.LOVE.UNITY.RESPECT. FREEDOM

It’s been said that, “To attract attractive people, you must be attractive. To attract powerful people, you must be powerful. To attract committed people, you must be committed. Instead of going to work on them, you go to work on yourself. If you become, you can attract.”

Many people want some extraordinary things but their self-image limits them on what they actually receive. A person cannot attract to themselves that which is greater than the way they see themselves.

For example, as long as we think and act like a smoker, we’re sure to keep smoking regardless of the patches, hypnosis, drugs or other cures we may seek. The same goes whether we’re wanting to lose weight, find a mate, or find a more satisfying career.

Until we begin to think and act like the person who has the things we desire we’ll never attract those things.

Think about this at an observable level. Birds of a feather do flock together. An honest man will not attract the friendship of thieves. A capitalist will not attract the companionship of communists. People who like to moan, complain and generally despise all they have in life will only be able to maintain the company of other like-minded individuals. A grateful, enthusiastic soul would quickly remove themselves from such company. They would find it draining! Misery loves company, this is true. Equally true and much less quoted is the fact that so does happiness! This is the Law of Attraction in action.

It is not enough that we desire whatever it is we desire, we must act in a way that allows us to attract into our lives the people and resources that will encourage and teach us the path to desires.

People who have successful marriages don’t think and act the way they do because they have successful marriages, they have successful marriages because they think and act a certain way. The same is true with people who have accumulated great wealth. They have wealth because they think and act in a manner that is conducive to attracting it.

Many people work very hard and sacrifice a lot in an effort to create the best life possible. But they are frustrated beyond belief and cannot understand why “life is so hard” or “why life continues to deal them such a poor hand.” Life is only hard because one believes that it is. Life will continue to deal a poor hand to those who believe that it will.

People do not attract what they want, but that which they are. “As a man thinks in his heart, so is he.” I, for one, have always been into “nice guys.” At least at a superficial level. Everyone who actually knows me would say I’m far from belonging in the cesspool of “nice girls” – at least not in the superficial level. Does it mean I don’t get hurt or burned just because I go for nice guys? I wish. But I have. And I still do. Point is, I am attracted to them because they’re exactly who I want to become, and maybe they’re attracted to me for the same reason – to some degree. Yes, they can be douchebags but so can I. No one’s perfect. A nice guy is still a person, and being so makes him imperfect. We can drive ourselves mad trying to rationalize so and so’s behavior or behavioral shifts but we should know better in believing that that’s a futile feat. People act the way they do not because they just want to fuck others over (yes, I still give this much credit to the inherent goodness of the human race). We act the way we do, not because we don’t know any better, but because we don’t know everything there is to know to actually be better. Story of the human race. Doesn’t make you or me any better or worse than him or her – we’re all simply different. So, the only way to attract what we want is to change the way we’re thinking about ourselves in certain situations. We need to get a different picture. Even if it is hard to believe. It’s been said that the longer we tell ourselves a lie the more we will begin to accept it ourselves.

In all reality though, we will be telling ourselves the truth. The truth is, we are winners, and we can have the things we desire. Many times, we just need to change our expectations. No matter what negative circumstances we may find ourselves in, we need to expect things to turn around in our favor. When we stop working on what it is we’re trying to get, and start working on changing the way we see ourselves, only then will we get what it is we want. When we change our thinking, our results will change.

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It is not where you are or who you’re with but who you choose yourself to be and therefore, become.

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